I have a lot of friends who are having babies. Good grief, are there lots of babies! And, as Chris and I face a difficult decision on the matter in the next few weeks, a question keeps surfacing: How do you know when you’re ready?
I keep coming back to something my mom told me: “You will never know when you are ready, but you will know when you aren’t.” And all I can come up with is that there are plenty of reasons that I have now and will probably have in the future that prove that I am not ready.
-Graduate school-Imperfect job
-Finances
-The house isn't completely decorated
-We may or may not want to stay in Little Rock forever.
-I love peace and quiet, and sleeping in on the weekends.
-I don't feel an "empty place" that only having children would fill, and neither does Chris.
Rather than couples who will (Surprise!) find themselves “expecting,” Chris and I will have to ultimately say that, yes, we are absolutely, completely ready.
So, how do you know?
Hi twin,
ReplyDeleteChildren aren't really one of my favorite things. It is interesting/odd to see so many friends having them. I am not in a place in my life (money wise/health wise/sanity wise) where it would be good to have a child.
One thing that really bothers me is how so many people think you should/have to have a child. I want to scream when these women make their comments and look down on me. I don't feel like I'm missing anything in my life by not having a kid and I would appreciate people not treating me like an alien over it.
It's one of those decisions that is up to the couple.
I talked to my mom about this too, because even though Martin and I aren't married yet, people keep pushing us on that AND about when we'll be "giving" our parents grandchildren (as if that's a good reason to have children?).
ReplyDeleteRight now, we're interested in getting to know each other and in enjoying each other's company and our life together. I'm not judging other people's decisions, but I know that we are happy and we aren't ready to give up the ability to wake up on the weekends and go wherever we want, whenever we want, just to enjoy a day together.
Awesome post!